Sometimes it would be nice if I had a legitimate reason to complain.
Oh yes, I complain. I complain about the toaster, gas prices, the tooth-paste, book-bindings,
dishes, airbags, and water-heaters. It takes but a small step back to see that the big
picture is shouting out that I am blessed beyond measure. Too bad they don’t make
glasses to fix my nearsighted self-centered worldview. Surrounded by affluence
in the one of the richest countries within the richest time in existence, still complain. I’ve never
gone a day without food, never been arrested wrongly, or held at gun-point. My family is a
great family. I have more than I need. If my everything that I owned in life was
its own living thing, it would be fat. It would simply crush all my dissatisfaction
with its mass. But there is no really large blob-of-my-belongings to knock sense
into me.
It is so easy to find the chink in the wall, stick my nose inches
from it and then let it eat away at me. It’s easy to fade the rest of the world
out and focus on the single imperfection. It’s like some of these fashion-models that think
they need to lose weight to be good enough, when in reality they are beautiful. And, if they weren’t completely skinny they would still be fantastic—personality is
frankly what is important, I don’t think any couple has remained married for fifty
years because they both had hot bodies. And being beautiful certainly does not mean happiness. But I’m going off topic, the point is it
seems to be human nature to find an imperfection and then bitterly fixate on it
until it consumes all the good that is screaming for recognition. People speculate
whether there is more or less evil in the world than there was in the past. But
what about the good? Why don't we ask is there more or less good in the world. Now, I’m not a look-at-the-glass half-full kinda guy, and I’m not
advocating that perspective. I’m a realist. The glass is half full of water it is half full of air. It is also half empty of water, and half empty of air.
My point is thankfulness is something we have in spite of not
having everything. We will never have everything, we shouldn’t even want that—think
about everyone else for crying out loud—what would they have? We should simply realize that right now,
there are people in other countries who are being parasitized by worms, sweating
in small mud and stick huts with malaria, there are small children who will never
know what hindsight looks like. There are parents who watch their children die in
their arms of starvation--helplessly. There are those who are oppressed by tyrannical
rulers. There are those who watch warlords murder their family—there are children who are blindfolded and forced to murder their own family and then to become hyper-expendable solders. There are some who eat dirt because it has
some nutrients in it. Just some.
I get upset when someone waists a few minutes of my time, when
I don’t get exactly what I want. A few unkind words and my day is ruined. I have
days. I have food. I have a future. I have life. Still, I am unthankful. I have health.
I have hope. I have a family. I foolishly take it for grated. I have the ability to
help. I have surplus. I have time to change.
Is reality a strong enough motivator to persuade me that I have
it good? Most days, no. I wish I was completely alone on this one. I wish I was the only person as unthankful as myself. But I'm not. Most people are in the same or worse state of mind as me. Even worse, unfortunately I am not generally unthankful.
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